He then goes on to explain that fantasizing during sex is not an indicator that you have an unfulfilling sex life. Rather, it indicates you have a healthy sex life. “The brain is the biggest sex organ and a little fantasizing goes a long way.”

Kerner makes a great point, and this disproves the misconception that porn is only for people that can’t get any action.

Porn is a tool that helps facilitate fantasies. Websites that play into men’s fantasies such as My Friend’s Hot Mom, My First Sex Teacher, and Seduced By A Cougar, all give men a visual manifestation of their sexual fantasies. Whether you later recall these fantasies in your mind during sex with a partner or on your own time, fantasizing is a healthy part of your sex life.

So Naughty Americans, I have to ask: Have you fantasized about someone else during sex…someone other than the person you were having sex with? If so, what was the situation, and what did you fantasize about?

Generally I am not a girl that has sex the first date, second, or any formula thereof. I have sex whenever I fucking feel like it, and a guy being too pushy is not going to sway me in the direction he wants any time soon.

Do you have any idea how often I literally have to throw guys out? Literally I have to tell them they need to leave Now. That’s generally how my dates end. The guys could just leave, make me fantasize about them all night, and maybe get a slam dunk next time, but no. Instead they’d rather be way too pushy, turn me off completely and make me have me tell them directly, Look, you seriously need to get the fuck out.

Example: This weekend I met a guy who was completely cute. We ended up going to dinner that night, I had a great time, and I was into him. He walked me home.all good things.

But then how the hell do I get rid of him? I said good night. He didn’t leave. I told him I had to get to bed. He didn’t leave. Even before we left the restaurant and he told one of his friends he was going to walk me home, I thought, “Fuck, please no, I really hope I don’t have to throw him out. That is so not sexy.”

After telling him everything I could muster-up to the effect of Hey, thank you, its really time to go now, trust me, I started on with my regular business as if he wasn’t even there.

I went inside, grabbed a mop and bucket, took it in the elevator of my building, went down to the basement and started mopping up a mess I’d made earlier (In 5 inch heels). He still didn’t take the hint.nor did he help.

As we got back up to my apartment, I was not about to let him back in. I lost count of how many times I told him good night, but I think he finally got the hint when I opened my door, ran inside and physically blocked him from getting in.

THEN Cassanova went in for the kiss.about half an hour too late buddy.game over, but thanks for playin.

But then, we had to go a little deeper into the issue at hand. This particular viewer was a 24 year old virgin (which is not that old by the way) and was just ready to get laid. There are a few factors that go into getting laid, and the first of which is: her willingness to fuck you in the first place.

He didn’t even know: Maybe she was a virgin too. In which case, there’s no way she’s giving it up on the first date, or the second, or probably even the third. If you are wanting to fuck right away, you need to make sure you are going after girls that are at least interested in doing that.

Even still, whether she is going to fuck on the first date depends completely on her. You don’t need to pressure her at all. Sure flirt, make a move, kiss her, but you don’t have to be too eager because if she wants to fuck on the first date, she will. If not, then you’re the pushy needy desperate guy that she’s going to avoid.

Furthermore, no amount of money you spend (on a legitimate date) is going to increase your chances of getting laid. If you spend $50 or $500, if she wanted to fuck you on the first date, she will, and if not she won’t. (The exception is if you clearly and completely chintz out: she may have initially wanted to fuck you, but then realized you’re lazy and not worth it.)

So, Why spend the extra $450?

Why not spend that towards the next 9 dates and increase your chances of getting laid over time?

If you want to increase your chances of getting laid exponentially, that’s when you spend the $50 on a date, and the $450 towards investing in yourself: ie education, a nice car, watch, clothes…for you!

Girls come and go….with all the shit that you bought them. So why not invest mostly in yourself? Because then when the next one comes along, she will see an improved version of you, rather than a broke used up version of you. That is more attractive to women.

You’ll see that the more you invest in yourself, over time, the quality and the quantity of pussy you will attain is much greater.
More on the Cost Benefit Pussy Analysis Theory to Come…

Piece of Advice from yesterday’s show:

When a girl gives you lame excuses about why she can’t see you and it seems no matter what you suggest she’s too busy: she’s not interested, but just won’t tell you “no” for two reasons:

a) She’d like to keep you on the backburner in case she ever needs you for anything in the future.
ie: help moving, shoulder to cry on, financial assistance in a pinch….but not getting laid.

b) She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings…. Again in case she ever needs you for anything.

The first two studies found that the average erection was between 6.2” and 6.4”. However, in both studies, the researchers let the men measure themselves. In the Lifestyles study of 2001, however, the men were measured by nurses. This study showed that the average erection had shrunk to 5.9 inches.

But what do the ladies prefer? The Huffington Post featured a Penis Size Preference Chart to see what women really want. The chart shows that on the average, women feel that 5 inches to 11inches in length and 4.75” to 7.25” in girth can be enjoyable, but not ideal. These women feel  7.25” to 8.25” is the perfect length, and  6.25” to 6.5”  is the perfect girth.

Why is the average cock size so different than the “ideal cock” women in the Huffington Post’s chart said they fantasize about? Is it perhaps because they have become used to seeing large cocks in porn? Maybe it’s because of all the large sex toys they’ve come accustomed to. But then again, maybe those toys were created to fill the void the average cock wasn’t filling.

Then again, this supposed “ideal cock” range is based on averages as well, so clearly there are outliers of all ranges. In other words, the perfect cock depends on the girl.

I for one tend to like a little on the smaller side, when a lot of girls I know believe bigger is better all the way. Maybe there isn’t any one size fits all amazing penis size to compare oneself to. Maybe it’s just about finding the perfect match.

PS…in the meantime, never apologize for your cock size ahead of time. It may have been just perfect, but you automatically put an idea in her head that it wasn’t.

 

Tory Lane and Dallas Lowe

The last couple of days, unfortunately, Lauren the host of LIVE with Lauren on Naughty America has been out sick. I was lucky and had the opportunity to fill in, and I have had an amazing time!

 

Yesterday, I interviewed Tory Lane. Oh my God she is amazing. She is outrageous in all the good ways. I love when I can learn from people, and I definitely learn from Tory every time I see her. What I mostly learn from Tory is that it’s okay to be yourself, and to fearlessly express your true personality and sexuality in any situation.

She is a wild free spirit that does what she wants and never gives anything the chance to get in the way of that.

Tory is recently married, is very much in love, hotter than ever, and also has a great boyfriend that would live up to any girl’s wildest fantasies.  I am happy for her, and I can’t wait until the next time she is on LIVE with Lauren, so I can hear all about her upcoming trip to Dubai and Ibiza. Lucky!