You made eye contact. She smiled, inviting you to come and talk.

You walk over and say “Hi,” she says “Hi,” now what?

Right now what’s most important is that you break the ice and start a conversation. Its not so important what you say because she has already given you the inviting smile saying “I want this guy to talk to me.”

Whats most important is that you approach her confidently. Even if you are scared-shitless (which you shouldn’t be because she has already given you an invite) act as you would act if you were comfortable. Its called “fake it ‘till you make it.” Women are attracted to men that they can look up to and learn from, not that are intimidated by them. You might think “Oh its cute to be this guy who has all these things going for him, but is intimidated by her. It’ll be a compliment.” No, its not cute, and it’s not a compliment. It’s an immediate signal to her that you are not good enough for her,and she can do better.

Break the ice by making a comment relevant to the situation, or something relevant to her. (Not that she’s just so pretty you had to come over. All that translates to in her mind is that you are looking for tail, and couldn’t think of one relevant thing to say.)

If she is walking a dog: easy conversation starter. If she is in gym clothes, ask “Do you always look this good right after a workout?” Follow that up by naming the closest gym and ask if she goes there. If she’s reading a book; “You must not be terribly interested in that book, because you kept looking up at me.”

If you are at a coffee place or anywhere where you have to order something, ask if she’s been there before, and what she recommends. Then make a comment about what she says. If she says something sweet, spicy, hot etc….easy lead to make a cute comment.

(Please Please Please don’t say, “I see you here all the time…” unless you have actually met eyes before and just hadn’t come up and talked to her yet. If it sounds like you watch her daily, and go to the same place at the same time she does, just to catch a glimpse….now she thinks you’re a stalker. Now she has to walk a new route to work every day. Good job.)

Great! You broke the ice. Now, just get her talking about herself. Ask her name.

A good tactic is to be so interested in what she’s saying that you don’t even say your name until she asks you. This makes her work for it a bit. And, if she’s into you, she’ll want to know your name. If not, she won’t really care. Also, if you say it up front (first thing) she’ll forget it, feel weird for asking it again, and when she gives you her number, and you text, she’ll hope you spell it out because she won’t know.

Now, you’ve broken the ice, she knows your name, and she’s still in front of you.

The next discussion will be about the conversation, and how to leave her wanting more.