On Naughty Americans the show, I often get questions from guys about how to meet women. So, I wanted to share a couple of things that you should do before you ever approach one in the first place.

*First Off: When getting in the business of approaching women, it’s important to remember and understand that rejection is just part of the game. Don’t take it personally. It’s impossible to catch every single stranger you attempt to talk to on a good day, with plenty of time to talk, with a fantastic compatible personality, single, and interested in exactly what you are bringing to the table.

Even in sales, good odds are 10%. This doesn’t mean one out of every 10 will say yes. This may mean you’ll have a dryspell of 90 No’s and then a flood of 10 Yes’s. The only way to get more Yes’s is to keep asking…and to make sure you’re asking the right target market….and to make sure what you’re “selling” is something the market you are targeting even wants.

There are ways to improve your odds that must begin before you even approach anyone.

1. Establish eye contact! What are the odds you are going to happen to be the man of her dreams if she won’t even look over at you? If you can’t catch her glance, there are better odds she’s already found the man…or woman…of her dreams, is not interested, or is just too busy to talk right then.

If she’s scanning the room and allowing the opportunity for your eyes to meet, at least it’s a signal she’s open to meeting people.

2. Next, smile!

a)      There are few things weirder than a guy staring at a girl for an extended period of time, and not smiling.

b)      Smiling is an instant message; “Hey I think you’re cute, wanna talk?”

If she smiles back, that’s an invite to start a conversation.

If she looks away, don’t necessarily think she’s not interested; she may just be shy. If she looks back shortly after, that is your invitation.

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