However, saying “nice guys finish last” isn’t generally said by “nice,” confident, and assertive men. That statement in itself is a very passive and pussy thing to say.

While said “Nice guys” may see a jerk, women see this:

Positive Characteristics of a Jerk:

*Assertive: they go after what they want in life.
*Not enough time to cater/ suck-up to everyone else. They have important things going on in their lives; more important than getting pussy.
*They do what they want to do & what’s best for them. *They may provide options and ask for opinions, but all options are something they’d like to do.
*Don’t waste time. They have a plan, and they execute it.

All of these qualities tend to make a man successful in his life, and therefore attractive to women. The perfect balance of these characteristics that will both get AND keep women is: Going out of your way to make yourself successful, not going out of your way to make others miserable.

It takes a confident man to act this way whether he is a jerk or not. Girls don’t like the games that jerks play, or rude behaviors towards others.
While women may overlook rude or jerk behavior for a while once attracted, what will not attract them is acting like a pussy.
By pussy, I mean: being passive and letting the world happen to you as opposed to making things happen for yourself. By pussy I mean: blaming others for taking the life/women you want instead of going after what you want until you get it. Lastly, a major indicator that you are acting like a pussy is if you don’t stand up for yourself.

Yes, a jerk would stand up for himself, so would a confident “nice” man, but not a “pussy.”

In summary: Yes, women may like certain things about jerks. Women appreciate it more when you are not a jerk, but are a confident, assertive “nice” man. “Nice guys” only finish last if by “nice guy” you mean pussy.

Are you freaking kidding me? “Catch men watching porn,” as if it is a bad thing, as if we don’t expect them to watch it, and as if it is something they should keep a secret.

Men watch porn. Women do too. Sometimes, more often than you think, they watch it together.

Porn can be used as a great facilitator for healthy relationships if both parties are honest about their fantasies, communicate what they are turned on by in porn, and if they can enjoy videos together; because porn is made to arouse people so that they will have sex.

When I interviewed Porn Legend Nina Hartley a while back, she told me about criticism she has received over the years from women that were angry at her for arousing their husbands.

Nina explained, “I have no interest in having sex with their husbands. I’m arousing them so that they will make love to their wives, not to me.”

Sure there are some videos within the realm of porn that could be seen as degrading or even niche fetishes that most people wouldn’t regularly enjoy in their personal lives, but that’s not all porn: those are just the videos that have given porn a bad rap.

There is a lot of porn that is all about realistic fantasies that women all across America have told me they regularly think about. Hundreds of women have told me face to face that they have the same realistic fantasies that are acted out in porn scenes that regularly appear on Naughty America, and other respectful sites and videos. Therefore, it seems ridiculous that in this day and age groups would still chastise or punish men with embarrassment when it is “discovered” that they watch porn.

In summary: Big Deal; Men watch porn. How about we find something we both like, fuck, and stop worrying about it.

But then, we had to go a little deeper into the issue at hand. This particular viewer was a 24 year old virgin (which is not that old by the way) and was just ready to get laid. There are a few factors that go into getting laid, and the first of which is: her willingness to fuck you in the first place.

He didn’t even know: Maybe she was a virgin too. In which case, there’s no way she’s giving it up on the first date, or the second, or probably even the third. If you are wanting to fuck right away, you need to make sure you are going after girls that are at least interested in doing that.

Even still, whether she is going to fuck on the first date depends completely on her. You don’t need to pressure her at all. Sure flirt, make a move, kiss her, but you don’t have to be too eager because if she wants to fuck on the first date, she will. If not, then you’re the pushy needy desperate guy that she’s going to avoid.

Furthermore, no amount of money you spend (on a legitimate date) is going to increase your chances of getting laid. If you spend $50 or $500, if she wanted to fuck you on the first date, she will, and if not she won’t. (The exception is if you clearly and completely chintz out: she may have initially wanted to fuck you, but then realized you’re lazy and not worth it.)

So, Why spend the extra $450?

Why not spend that towards the next 9 dates and increase your chances of getting laid over time?

If you want to increase your chances of getting laid exponentially, that’s when you spend the $50 on a date, and the $450 towards investing in yourself: ie education, a nice car, watch, clothes ….for you!

Girls come and go….with all the shit that you bought them. So why not invest mostly in yourself? Because then when the next one comes along, she will see an improved version of you, rather than a broke used up version of you. That is more attractive to women.

You’ll see that the more you invest in yourself, over time, the quality and the quantity of pussy you will attain is much greater.
More on the Cost Benefit Pussy Analysis Theory to Come…

If you think about it, your mom was instinctively grooming you to be attractive to the best possible girls so that she would have the best possible grandkids someday.

But you didn’t listen, so now I’m going to put it bluntly in terms that make sense.
When you get a girls attention and she is interested in what you have to offer, don’t turn her off due to little but obvious factors you failed to take care of.

Be Clean:
It might sound nit-picky: “Oh, this girl wouldn’t talk to me because I have dirt under my nails,”….no babe, you thought you had to squeeze in the idea of sex somewhere on down the line, but she already went there in her head and thought, “Who’s PUSSY is he sticking THOSE fingers into? Not mine….Where else does he have random collections of dirt that I’m not going to want to see?”

Bad Smells:
Think about it. Our sense of smell is a biologically engineered survival and protection mechanism. When you are looking in the fridge for something to eat, and you open it up and its rotten… it smells bad. Meaning: throw it away, it is not good: Same thing with dating/mating guys. No amount of saran wrap will make her want to eat it either.

Facial Hair:
Different strokes for different folks, so do what is going to look best on you. Whatever you do, be precise with it. If you shave your face for a clean cut look, but then have long nose hairs brushing your lip; why bother shaving in the first place? Also, if your eyebrows cloud your beautiful eyes, you’re doing yourself a disservice.

Be you, and be the best possible version of you. Guys ask me everyday how can they meet chicks, and how do they get girls interested. The best way to get the right ones close is to be yourself, and to put yourself in places where the people around you have things in common with you.

A good way to Keep them close is to avoid these obvious deal breakers that can completely turn a girl off.

My Naughty Americans viewers often ask me, “What is the best way to meet a girl at a club?” “How can I talk to a girl at a club?” and “What do I say to a girl when I meet her at a club?”
I personally recommend meeting girls in more casual circumstances because they have less of a guard up than they do when they are all dressed up in a dark place that’s packed with sloppy drunk people running around.

However, if you are going to approach a girl at a club, there is something to keep in mind: this is your first impression. Make it count. Make it one that’ll eventually get you laid. Don’t overstay your welcome. Initiate eye contact, get the inviting smile, prove that you have a ball and initiate conversation.
Get around to talking about something you are passionate about really quick, get her talking about herself. Before the conversation completely peters out, ask for her number before you excuse yourself, or if done right, she’ll tell you to take hers.

If you don’t give her your number, and you really piqued some interest, she’ll really hope you call. If you give her yours also, she will have a little more security that she’ll see you again, and won’t be quite as anxious for you to call FYI.

Also, you are not on a date. Don’t invite yourself to be her date, unless she specifically asks you to stay with her for any particular reason. Even then, I recommend that you still find a reason to leave her side before too long.

As far as placement in her mind goes, isn’t it better for her to think you are great, and wonder where you went, and hope she’ll hear from you soon than to risk the chance of her thinking she’s got you in the bag, now on to the others….or “Why won’t he give me some space, I can hardly hear him, ok this convo is way too deep for party time.”

If you are out partying with the boys and really don’t care about meeting women, by all means, get as obnoxiously sloppy drunk as you want. However, if you are specifically trying to impress girls for either a hook-up that night or a hook-up in the near future, watch the alcohol levels boys.
No woman wants to go home with the guy who is sloppy drunk with whisky dick. No girl wants to go home with the guy who makes an ass of himself and either falls in front of a bunch of people or gets arrested for whatever reason.