What do women really want in bed?
Women want a lot of things, and one of the main things is a man that takes control.

Out of every city I have been to interviewing women about their fantasies, that is a predominant reoccurring theme. Women do not need to be into full on sub-dom relationships to want this, nor do they want to be completely controlled; they just want to feel more feminine by letting go control and letting the man lead the way.

Personally, in most of my past sexual experiences, I relied too much on the man, and didn’t speak up for what I wanted. It was only months ago when a guy asked me, “What do you want” for the first time. I didn’t know what to say. I actually had to stop and think about it for a second. I liked being asked, and he perfectly took control from there.

I think there must be a healthy balance of control. Since that experience, I had a situation where I felt like I was in the driver seat completely…and he was in the trailer.

Having been used to letting the guy take control, it was an unpleasant surprise being with someone that clearly had no idea what to do, or was to intimidated to do anything. It made me feel like I was taking advantage of him, which completely turned me off, so he had to go.

What do you like? Do you like to take control or follow the leader?