More and more, people are becoming increasingly sexually adventurous. Maybe they have always been sexually adventurous in their minds, but are now becoming more open to talking about these things; which is how they are going to come true.

If you don’t ask, it won’t happen. As with any fantasy, if you want to act it out, you need to talk about it with your partner (or with those you would like to act it out with).

Recently I was in Hollywood and I met a man who was on the brink of fame. His girlfriend loved all the attention they were getting. They had had threesomes before and had acted out many fantasies.

However, since his new found fame, he began playing a game just to see how easy it is now in Hollywood to make a fantasy come true just by asking.

Because of the link of work he was in, it was not uncommon for him to meet 1,000 women in a night. He would literally ask 100 women if they would like to have a three-way with him and his girl.

His odds? More than 9 out of 10 said yes on average. Some asked to meet his girl before they said yes, but generally it was an instant yes.

Why then is a three-way still a fantasy? If it’s so easy, why don’t people stop fantasizing about it and do it?

When I was four and throwing a tantrum, my mom used to say, “Use your words to get what you want!” It’s the same concept. If you want it to happen, just ask, and you could be surprised at the outcome.

(When you are really good, you don’t have to ask anymore; you can start assuming, but asking is a good start.)