I recently read an article on salon.com by Mary Elizabeth Williams entitled “How Not to Make Love Like A Porn Star.” The article began with “He’d been jackhammering away for what felt like hours,” and went on to explain how porn is not a great instructional tool for having great sex.

I see her point, however, I disagree.

I feel that porn is a great way to enhance your sex life, and to learn new maneuvers you may not have otherwise thought of.

The thing is, not every move and every position is going to feel great on every body. We’re all different, which is why we like different things. The most important thing to remember when aiming to please your partner is to really be in tune with each other. If something doesn’t feel good, it’s your responsibility to voice it so that it can be changed to something you do like.

It’s not porn’s fault if you don’t like what your partner is doing in bed, it’s yours for not correcting it. If your partner still persists; then it’s an issue between the two of you.

I know what she means by “jackhammering” and it is awful, but I don’t think it has anything to do with porn. I haven’t seen too much jackhammering in the porn I watch.

The one instance in which someone tried to do that with me, I don’t think he was following any “As Seen on TV” regimen. I think that actually he just had no idea what he was doing at all.

I let him know that that wasn’t working, pretty much showed and told him exactly what to do, but it just wasn’t happening.

Again, that was not porn’s fault; it was just the wrong partner.

How do you turn the wrong sexual partner into the right sexual partner? There’s the communication aspect, however if they are not receptible to your needs, then there really is no way to fix the incompatibility.

In summary, it’s not porn’s fault if your partner is bad in bed, you either need to work on it together or find a new partner.