Last week on Naughty Americans, we evaluated some questions from viewers that were having a hard time asking girls questions, such as, “Will you go on a date with me? Will you be my girlfriend? Would you like to go _______ with me?”
How about we stop asking things of other people, and just say what we want?

That’s when I realized the key to getting what you want is
a) Admit to yourself what you want
b) Have the balls to tell others what you want
c) Don’t settle for anything other than what you want
d) Be prepared for the consequences (ie, this one might not be “the one” and it may take you longer to find a perfect match, but you won’t get stuck with something you don’t like.)

Make yourself a grocery list of all the things you want in a partner, and a list of deal breakers. This list will evolve over time as you experience life and learn more about yourself.

This makes asking girls out a lot easier, because rather than asking anything of them, you’re simply stating who you are, what you want, and they are free to come along. If they choose not to, great! You’ve just eliminated them from the pool, and you didn’t have to change and bend to cater to someone that’s not right for you. You can cross her off the list without investing too much of yourself by barking up the wrong tree.

For example
Instead of ambiguous questions like: “You wanna hang out sometime”

Try: “I know this great restaurant that has amazing brunch. I’d love for you to join me.” Or “I’m checking out this new art gallery this weekend. I’d love for you to join me.”

Let her know you have exciting things going on in your life, and she’s more likely going to want to “hang out.”Hang out” is a vague phrase that doesn’t say anything specific about you.

What it does say about you is that you are interested, but scared to turn off this particular girl so you leave it open-ended rather than asserting who you are. You’re making your proposal one-size fits all. But, when it comes down to it, you’re not one-size fits all.

So what’s the point of hiding that fact? All you’re going to do, if you don’t find it out then, is find it out later after you’ve invested in a few dates, or worse, an entire relationship!

So you need let it be known who you are. Yes, you will turn some people off. Perfect! They were the wrong ones anyway. But guess what:the right ones will find you a lot easier.